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Success by Design


Aug 17, 2021

In today’s episode, we talk about relationship patterns, and how in any relationship pattern you find yourself in, it requires both parties to participate. Where most of us get stuck is that we tend to fixate on what the OTHER person is doing wrong, and we completely miss our part in the dance.

Our choices can ENABLE the other person's choices and further solidify the unhealthy pattern. Instead of getting stuck in complaining, ask yourself these questions to begin shifting the enabling dynamic:

  • What am I doing to contribute to the dynamic that I don’t like?
  • How am I reinforcing the unwanted behaviour?
  • What would be the cost of me no longer enabling this particular behaviour?

Join us for an insightful and intimate conversation about how it’s not always easy to see our part in relationship dynamics that have existed for a long time, but the ability to identify the role we play is critical to the process of change.

This episode was recorded as part of the weekly training that happens inside our free private Facebook group, The EQ Lab. If you are looking for a vibrant community of women who are ready to transform their relationships and reach that next level of success, join us right here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theeqlab 

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